How Did I Get Here
My story didn't begin with me.
It began long before I was born, in a story passed from one generation to the next. My parents inherited it from theirs, the way their parents had before them. Like most inherited stories, no one stopped to question it. It was simply lived. And in time, it became mine.
I grew up in a good family, with parents who loved me and wanted the very best for me. They were busy, working hard to earn a living, to provide for us, and to be seen as a good family. They were doing the right thing the only way they had ever been taught it. And that way came with rules, and with compliance. You met the expectation. You did not question it.
Without any of us realising it, that way of living began writing a story inside me.
At first, I thought it was normal. I assumed every family carried the same need to appear like a "good family," to have the right image and tell the right story. It took me years to understand something that changed everything.
There is no perfect family. There is no single right story. There are only the stories we inherit, and the stories we go on to live.
And whether we notice it or not, we all carry one.
Mine was built quietly, in small ways, every day. Being asked why I did what I did, again and again. The little corrections. The reminders for the times I hadn't behaved. Slowly I began to feel there was always something about me that needed fixing, and that I could never quite be myself. The harder truth is I'm not sure I even remembered how. That self went quiet so early that I half forgot it, and somewhere along the way I learned it wasn't welcome here.
So the story became this: I'm not good enough.
From that belief, I became a doer. I told myself that if I achieved more, worked harder, and proved myself enough, one day I would finally feel enough. But enough never arrived. Because I wasn't trying to become myself. I was trying to become who I thought I was supposed to be.
That belief followed me into school, into work, into relationships, into almost every challenge I met. And underneath all of it, one question refused to go away.
Is this really it?
For a long time I had no answer. Then, slowly, I began to see the story for what it was. Not the truth about who I am, just something I had inherited and never thought to question. And if it was only a story, it could be written differently.
That realisation changed the direction of my life. Not because anyone handed me the answers, but because I saw, for the first time, that a different story was possible.
That experience shaped the coach I am today.
The more I explored how people create real change, the more I was drawn to coaching. What pulled me in was one simple belief. People are not broken. They don't need to be rescued, or told who to become. They need someone who trusts that they already have what it takes to grow, to reflect, and to choose.
That belief landed deep in me, because it was exactly what I had needed. Not advice. Not fixing. Not another person writing my story. Someone who believed I was capable of writing it myself.
That is how I coach today.
I don't tell people who they should be. I don't hand out answers. I create a space where you can see the story you have been living, ask whether it still serves you, and choose what comes next.
Because lasting change doesn't happen when someone gives you a better story. It happens when you realise you have been holding the pen all along.
That is why I coach. To help people stop living a story they never truly chose, and start living, and parenting, from one that is genuinely their own.
If something here has stayed with you
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